Something to chew on

Several years ago the sociology department of Duke University did a study on ‘peace of mind’. Several factors were found to contribute greatly to emotional and mental stability.

They are:

Forgive: Rid yourself of suspicion and resentment. Nursing a grudge was a major factor in unhappiness.

Forget: Live in the present. An unwholesome preoccupation with old mistakes and failures leads to depression.

Accept life: Don’t waste time and energy fighting conditions you cannot change. Cooperate with life, instead of trying to run away from it.

Stay involved: Force yourself to stay involved with the living world. Resist the temptation to withdraw and become reclusive during periods of emotional stress.

Roll with the punches: Refuse to indulge in self-pity when life hands you a raw deal. Accept the fact that nobody gets through life without some sorrow and misfortune.

Be old-fashioned: Cultivate the old-fashion virtues like love, honour, compassion and loyalty.

Be reasonable: Don’t expect too much of yourself. When there is too wide a gap between self-expectation and your ability to meet the goals you have set, feelings of inadequacy are inevitable.

Go outside yourself: Find something bigger than yourself to believe in. Self-centered, egotistical people score lowest in any test for measuring happiness.