Surkhet, December 12
If it wasn’t for her self-annointed ‘big sister’, Punam Pun Magar would have quit school at the age of 14 to marry a man nearly twice her age, bear him babies and tend house. Now she’s hoping to become a lawyer.
Two in five Nepali girls just like Magar marry before they turn 18, one of the highest rates in the world, despite child marriage being illegal in the impoverished Himalayan country.
The bad times for Magar began when both her parents died and her aunt’s family felt burdened, saying she must pay her way. “They told me not to go to school and do household chores. After all, they wanted to get rid of me. So they started planning my marriage to a 26-year-old man,” Magar said as tears welled up.
That’s when ‘big sister’ Krishna Paudel came to her rescue, snatching her from a potential life of illiteracy, poverty and ill health, common fallout of so many child marriages in Nepal.
Hundreds of ‘big sisters,’ many of them former child brides themselves, have volunteered to counsel teenaged girls like Magar, as well as their families and communities, on the adverse impact of marrying young, using their own stories as cautionary tales.
“When I met her, I told her everything about child marriage including legal consequences and social fallout. Since then, I’ve seen phenomenal change in her. That knowledge empowered her and now she’s headed towards a bright future,” said Paudel.
The legal age of marriage in Nepal is 20 for men and women alike. Yet child marriage remains deeply rooted in conservative, mainly in the Hindu society of Nepal, where many parents marry off their teenaged daughters to boost the wider family finances.
This drives a vicious cycle of ill-health, malnutrition and ignorance, since a child bride is more likely to leave school and experience problems in pregnancy or birth, say campaigners. Some also face domestic and sexual abuse.
Nepal has the third highest child marriage prevalence in South Asia, according to the United Nations. The ‘Sisters for Sisters’ programme was introduced as part of the government drive to end child marriages in Nepal by 2030. The main job of the programme is to keep girls in school.
Activists say dropout rates rise when girls are co-opted into household chores, pushed into early marriage or held back by discrimination and deep-seated taboos over periods.
So, when 25-year-old Paudel noticed Magar’s attendance dipping, she tracked her down and weighed in with advice and kept dishing out the same message over many months. Her wedding was called off and Magar went back to school.
“Had it not been for my ‘big sister,’ I would have had three or four children by now, and they would be studying here instead of me,” said Magar, 17, at her government-run school in western Nepal’s Surkhet district.
Rachana Bantha is another active member of the ‘big sisters’ programme. A wife at 15 and a mother at 17, big sister Rachana Bantha said she had grappled with poor health and poverty since her forced marriage, a decade ago.
“I felt like killing myself. I remember how horrible it all was, but that is what motivates me every day to help these girls. They should not have to go through what I did,” Bantha said. “I can save their lives,” she said, wearing the ‘big Sisters’ uniform of pink tunic and black pleated trousers.
Bantha said she had stopped at least a dozen child marriages in the past four years.
But the crime remains widespread, said Khagendra Bahadur Ruchal, an administrative official at Surkhet district.
He blamed poverty and illiteracy, as well as parents hoping to stop the taboo of unmarried sex and pregnancy. The main enemy, however, is the custom. “It is ingrained in our society’s fabric. It is considered the norm. Even politicians and teachers are marrying their children off in some places. If they don’t practice what they preach, how can we expect any change?” he questioned.
Teenagers have also been eloping more often, a trend campaigners attribute to better access to mobile phones and the internet. As for the cause, activists said some girls have been fleeing poverty or forced marriage, others have been chasing independence and sexual freedom.
Nepal should give girls some sort of incentive to stay in school so they aspire to a career of their own, said Sumnima Tuladhar of the Kathmandu-based child rights group, CWIN Nepal.
“They need to be excited about education. They don’t see a future after finishing school. We have to create a society where young people have something more than marriage to look forward to,” she said.
Poverty is the main problem with girls routinely pushed into domestic work in a country where one in five survives on less than $1.25 a day, said Ananda Paudel of development charity VSO, which is behind the Sisters for Sister project. The programme began in 2017 and has boosted girls’ confidence along with their school attendance, said Paudel.
“They are now empowered. Had it not been for this, we cannot imagine where they would have been right now,” he said. The results are evident. Magar — alert in her blue school uniform — seems worlds away from the 14-year-old orphan, who came so close to dropping out.
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