I find situations when people make instant decisions very captivating. There are many psychological theories on how we make decisions in our day-to-day life, and one of them is the heuristic approach. We use it very often. Heuristic is defined as “enabling a person to discover or learn something for themselves”. At times we are unable to learn or discover something unless we come across a situation on our own.

In general, we tend to assume situations, or we can say we judge things based on what we see. Consider this: You saw a movie in which a boy hits a bar and drowns his sorrows in alcohol after a fresh break-up. Now, if you happen to visit a bar someday and spot a man in a situation similar to the movie, there is high probability of assuming that he had gone through a break-up. However, there could be other reasons for the person. Or we may think a person who is alone is “not happy”. Why can’t a person who is alone be happy?

At first, I forgot to realise the beauty of sadness, pain and that hollow feeling, but now I have come to realise that it is actually the most beautiful moment. How will I enjoy happiness if there is no sadness? There would be no meaning of it. You need to experience the darkness to enjoy the light, isn’t it?  These days, I enjoy my own company and I am happy. Being alone helps me know more about myself. I listen to people through books.

I am looking for new goals and new challenges, and this whole process gives me a thrilling experience. I’m fine with its consequences – I might not have many friends, I might sound boring. But deep down, I am happy. Obviously, there are always spikes in the journey of life but even so, I am actually having a good time.

There was a time when I believed that happiness is when we travel, meet new people and explore new destinations. I had almost all the traits of an extrovert person. I easily socialised and shared my ups and downs with every person I met. I was a “fun to be around” type of person. But things are different now. You might find me as one of the most boring people on earth but on the contrary, I am happier than ever.

So, if you see a person who is alone, remember that s/he can actually be the happiest person on earth. Remember the guy in the bar? Probably, his friends were late or he just wanted to have a good time or it could be a number of other reasons. Why should we judge him based on our own assumptions?