Sometimes I feel lost and at other times I feel as if I have conquered the world. At times the laughter is not under my control, and at other times I can’t hold the tears in my eyes. Why do I see sadness as a disease to be cured while happiness as a gift of life? Both are just emotions and a part of life.
Sometimes I try to find a way not to be sad. But on deep thought, I learn that without sadness life is incomplete. Sadness, just as happiness, is a natural part of life, which as humans, I must taste, whether I like it or not.
If sadness does me no good, then why do I go to watch emotional movies? I like it because I enjoy being the part of the character’s sadness. I listen to songs which make me cry. Does that mean I love crying? I do. Happiness would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.
Sorry to say but even successful people are taking happiness wrongly. They are telling us ways to become happy. Why is there any need to do away with sadness? Just live it, cry and show your sorrows, take your time and accept the truth that sadness is as much a part of life as happiness is.
I would like to tell people, be the emotion in you. God has made me and wants me to be a human, so why should I try to conquer my feelings? Do I want to tell the world how happy I am with my smiling face? I will not do injustice to myself just to give them comfort.
The cure for anything is salt water — tears, sweat or the sea. I know, happiness is a dominant emotion, and our primary focus of doing anything is to get this. But is it right to let this emotion suppress others? The energy put in suppressing the emotions will bounce back with equal reaction and hurt me more.
According to psychology, suppressing our emotions consciously and deliberately when there is no trauma can lead to damaging effects on our mind and body. Sadness is not a problem, it’s a phase to be lived. The world would not exist if everyone is in joy, and there is no grief.
I am blessed to know this fact. Otherwise, I would have been naive like others and be spending my whole life chasing something while missing others. My life is full of tragedies, tears, smiles, confusion, love, care, talk, silence, peace and chaos. With this changed mindset I have built love for every moment. There are swings in my feelings and I love to ride this roller-coaster. I hope you all do, too.
A version of this article appears in print on October 23, 2019 of The Himalayan Times.