MIDWAY: A show of concern

Showing concern justifies itself at least to me on a personal level. This must be appreciated and conceded by one and all. Truly, it calls for sympathy and not crocodile tears. More can be done by this simple yet touching act than by anything else.

And the reactions range from mild shock to tears of gratitude. This is made manifest in ways too numerous to enumerate but can be deduced as such, for example, in giving the impression that one is at a loss for words yet one’s presence is enough.

Its familiar nature denotes concern that cannot be brushed aside too lightly. Concern expresses itself not as a shallow reckoning but comes from somewhere deep down, to surface whenever the occasion demands it. Moreover, it makes sense to be concerned at the way things have turned out and makes itself felt as a lot of sympathy — to lend a shoulder to cry upon.

What more can one want than to have someone’s sympathy? This means that an individual receives fellow feeling for a case. The sympathiser exudes sorrow at what might have befallen the other. This does not allow for a difference of opinion but leads to consolation. It is all right to vent one’s emotion provided the other’s sentiments and sensitivities are kept in mind. The aftermath can be reduced to mannerisms conducted in a befitting manner.

Showing concern is perceived as counsel. This is to say that it is a service of a particular kind. And the recipient could be taken by surprise at the sudden surge of interest. Nothing is so guaranteed to provide succour when it is needed the most and can revive hope.

A genuine concern is easily understood and accepted as such. It constitutes an overture, which is taken for granted. This calls for taking oneself to task and evoke a response from the other.

There is nothing showy about it for it is a gut feeling that has spilled over. An individual is fortunate enough to operate on the same wavelength when this happens. No gesture is called for or one that is motivated by outside interest. The role is that of a confidant who is only too keen to listen to the other person’s woes. And does not mean passing light-hearted banter but making weighty and substantial comments.