Specific refusals help


The dos and don’ts haunt us everywhere we tend to go. There’s no escape. It all starts with the children getting the “rod” for dodging the path shown by the parents, teachers and others. The fun of saying “No” is great so there are a lot of violations of the supposed rule. Of course, the state and so many others have come up with their mandatory rules and regulations that make it difficult for a freedom lover to spice up things by giving hoots to them. However, if nabbed it makes for a hefty penalty or rest behind the bars.

The incidents spearheaded by the rule breakers, however, do not reflect the better aspects of refusing. The negative liners certainly do not present a warm getup yet there are times when a curt “No” is more than necessary to spruce up matters on the right track. It is more to do with one’s dignity in the face of the impossible demands

that may arrive from anywhere. It may be your colleagues, spouse, kids

or anyone else who may come up with so many requests and demands

that can’t see fulfillment or they fall short of your approval. That’s the

time to strike with a firm refusal

rather than tide the time.

One can’t be a “Yes, Minister” all the time. There are times when you have to speak up your mind. If you can get it going then to agree would be fine. But, one too many headaches cannot lead you on the positive line so go on the dissuading path so that your life becomes a little more easier. The thing to remember is that once you agree to some request or demand, it’s now your burden to fulfil it - and if you can’t it’s becomes a perennial headache.

To be soft-spoken is fine, but there are moments in life when a little reflection of your aggressive side can be an asset. With a simple “No” as an answer, you can save yourself from much haggling and harassment later on that can ruin the calm pace of your life. However, there are instances when a subdued refusal can be the root of future attacks that make you relent.

It may need some juggling of figures to decide on when you go for the “yes” and when for the “no’”. It’s a personal matter yet, if the past is any indication, the leaders are the foremost in giving that positive image which, in fact, is only a mere facade of the negation that their minds actually work on. Be truthful, that is be able to say “No” when you feel convinced about it.