TOPICS: Other side of the world

There is a thin line that splits humans into two distinguishable entities. I call it a thin line because apart from physical differences, there isn’t much separable between the two sexes.

The bells of parity had rung long ago and every single individual well knows about it. However, our actions deny the existence of this truth. We ourselves are the very evidence of how differences exist even today when the society claims to have overcome things that held it back.

The saddest part is that most of us have stopped questioning about it and moved along.

Women have always been on the other side of the world, not physically but psychologically. There is a delusional space in the human mind that has classified the roles that specify do’s and don’ts for them.

Take cooking for example. It is believed that women are supposed to be the cook in the family. Not just in traditional families but in modern families too.

Consider the scenario of a modern couple coming home from work at the same time. Now what usually happens is, the male counterpart is more driven towards relaxing and the female takes on the responsibility to cook dinner or serve beverage.

It is worth noticing that these actions have become more instinctive.

Women do things that are expected from them. This is widely common in the Nepali context. I say so because I do follow some of those norms myself unintentionally or even intentionally.

Intentionally in situations when I don’t want my actions to be a medium of disrespect and unintentional when I automatically act upon those norms regardless of what my feelings towards those actions are.

The point is that it has been going on for so long that things rarely change. Voices come up, some get heard, some get buried; some things change, some remain the same and this is how it goes on.

Women have never been able to manage their space in this world that is so full of men. It is ironic when people call women ‘good managers’ when all we try to do is fit in the ‘men’s world’. In this sense women should be called ‘good fitters’.

There are inspirational examples of women who stood for themselves but still those are not enough. In this regard, education, awareness and most importantly free will can act as driving forces.

Only when women initiate, the narrow wall of separation can be broken down and women can be on par with men.