Strong values and self-esteem are the keys to helping your children cope with peer pressure. There is no miracle cure for peer pressure, but for those who are informed about it can certainly make the right decisions without being swayed by their friends. Teach children strong values and let them know what is expected of them. Do not overwhelm them with unattainable goals.

Lead by example

If you do not want your child smoking, do not tell them not to smoke, explain to them why they shouldn’t. Children and young adults will often do as they see and not as you say. For example, if a parent tells a child not to smoke, while they themselves are lighting-up, the child will likely follow their parent’s example instead of their advice.

Once a child is instilled with strong values, how do you help them remain strong once the pressure begins? You obviously can’t jump out of the bushes and whisper advice in their ear, but they will hear you anyway. Their success under pressure depends on your success at home.

Mistake, not a sin

Do not teach a child that the actions you disapprove of are evil. It is hard for anyone to look at their best friend as a villain just because they are making mistakes. Instead, explain to your child that what their friends may be doing are mistakes, not sins. Let them know that their friends are still good people.

If a child loves their friends, they will not believe you if you say those friends are bad. They are far more likely to believe that their actions are wrong, and thus be far less likely to participate in those actions.

Do not tell your child that s/he cannot hang out with their friends because they are a bad influence, this will only work against you. Instead, let your child be a good influence in a mislead crowd.