Babe I love you so:

I loved a girl and I used her a lot, but now I have really fallen in love with her. Should I tell her everything? Will she leave me if I tell her how I used her in past? What do I do? I do not want to hide anything from her.

— Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

It is good to know that some people still have a conscience. The most important issue here is that you have come to terms with your faulty past. Don’t saddle this girl with your guilt trip. You need to make a commitment that you won’t ever use her again for your personal gain. Don’t get stuck with the past, you are now in love with this girl. This is your present reality, so be free.

Playing games with heart :

I turned 17. My best friend is a year elder to me. One day just for fun I proposed. She laughed in the beginning, but then she accepted my proposal. I was shocked because I have a girlfriend and I love her very much. My girl does not know about this incident. If I tell her about this, it will hurt her, and if I deny the other girl, who is my best friend, I will be hurting her too. Please advise me what to do?

— Mr Dikpal

Dear Mr Dikpal,

You have been a silly boy and as a consequence of your silliness you will end up hurting both these girls. Just remember you can’t play games with people’s emotions. No matter what you do to sort things out, you are going to get left with egg on your face.

Making advances:

I’m 29 and a very smart and good-looking guy. I have completed my Masters and have been teaching in a government university in Kathmandu. A few years ago, I fell in love. She was a beautiful, smart and decent girl. Both of us loved each other, but then she got married to another guy. However, she does not seem happy with him and I am her shoulder to cry on. When she got married, I was not in Kathmandu. She said she tried contacting me, but all in vain and then she got married. Even though she is married, she wants to have an intimate physical relation with me. I have refused her several times but she requests me to continue the relationship. Now I’m in trouble. Should I continue the relationship? Please suggest.

— Troubled lover

Dear Troubled Lover,

If you really love this woman, why don’t you rescue her from this farce of a marriage? You have observed “she does not seem happy with him”. The fact that she still desires you instead of her husband must be bolstering your ego. Ego and conceit aside, are you sure that you are not encouraging this poor confused woman in any way? If you are in no position to rescue this woman,stop hovering around her and let her get on with her marriage.

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