TOPICS: The power of sisterhood
Last week, conservative talk show host Laura Ingraham attacked Meghan McCain for speaking
out about the Republicans’ failure to relate to young people. Instead of meaningful debate, Ms. Ingraham belittled her younger counterpart (the daughter of Sen. John McCain), insulting her appearance.
It got me thinking: The 1960s gave us some great slogans. It was the decade of “black is beautiful.” It was the era of “make love, not war.” And most important for women, the ‘70s gave us “sisterhood is powerful.” Sadly, this last slogan is also the least recognizable to women in 2009.
In 1975, the idea that women could effect real political and social change by listening to each other and by sticking together was electrifying. Today, it is almost unheard-of.
Instead of engaging Ms. McCain in a thoughtful dialogue, Ingraham tried to silence her by suggesting that she was too fat, too pretty and, above all, too young and inexperienced to be allowed to speak out the way she did. It’s unsurprising that older women are attacking younger women, or that they’re using the tactics of middle-school queen bees to do it. After all, in our culture, women aren’t taught to support other women. Older women, invisible in the mainstream media, have been told from infancy that they’ll only be relevant as long as they’re young and sexually attractive.
As a result, they often see younger women as competition, dismissing and alienating them. Offended, younger women don’t look up to older women as role models or mentors. This weakening of sisterhood has created a gap between generations of women, a gap that is holding women back and making much-needed progress more difficult to accomplish.
Last week, Sally Burgess, the chairwoman of the National Abortion Foundation, was quoted in The New York Times as saying that “younger women have always had access to abortion care, they don’t fully appreciate the battle that was fought to have it available to them.”
But, everywhere you look, young women are taking action to carry on the work done by previous generations, and not just in the area of reproductive rights.
That’s what sisterhood is, and it can be a powerful thing.
That’s not to say women shouldn’t support other women simply because they happen to have the XX chromosome in common. But in order to ensure continued progress for women, older women need to form relationships with younger women instead of fearing us or belittling us. Even when we don’t agree, women need to engage with one another’s ideas and intellects.
Young women know that we have it better than our mothers and grandmothers did. But it’s clear that their generations left us a good deal of unfinished business. What might come across to older generations as complacency or ingratitude is really young women simply looking forward. We are thinking about the battles that lie ahead. There’s still a lot to be done. But if we stick together, if we draw on the electrifying power of sisterhood, women can effect real change.