Himalayan News Service

Kathmandu:

“He who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger”.

There comes a time in your life when no matter how hard you work, it goes unnoticed. Your capabilities are questioned and you think you are being treated unfairly. On top of all that, people begin to point out your mistakes or list out the things that you have not done. It is as if they are waiting for you to make one false move before bringing it all down. They never seem to have a word of praise for you or the work and effort you are putting in. All they seem to do is complain. When all this strikes you at once, you are left disturbed, depressed, frustrated and you start disliking the work that you once loved so much. Above all you start questioning your credibility. Nothing could be worse than this. But it is not the end of the world yet. Think again. Do you really hate your work? Deep down in your heart, if you know this is not true, take the time to analyse your circumstances.

Mohan Adhikari, principal and counsellor, Subhashree College, Tinkune says, “There are basically two types of people. One — who is controlled by the outside environment and two — who is self-sufficient and motivated by self. If you work hard but are left unnoticed, the problem is not apparent to a person motivated by self. The self rules such a person. He knows what he is doing and where he is heading. Though his work may not be justified, it really does not matter to him as he hardly cares about what other people have to say. Problems arise when the outside environment controls a person. This person does not believe in the self and instinct. S/He is more concerned with what others might think. In such a case, I would advise a person to bungee jump. Doing so, you will emerge a different person altogether with a more positive attitude towards life and yourself.” When faced with such problems and worries, it is best to talk to a friend or even a colleague about it. Your boss would be a good option too. It might not help solve the problem but talking to someone will help put things back in perspective. This is a phase in your life that will keep appearing. You should retain a strong mind and focus on what it is that you really want. Have confidence in yourself and in what you do.

Try these boosts:

•If you are not happy with what you are doing, find something that is more “you”.

•Believe in self improvement but if you coerce yourself into thinking that you are a misfit, think again and this time focus on the positive.

•Don’t underestimate your capabilities. When you have no one to look up to, it is for you to comfort yourself and move on .

•Life does not come to a standstill. Bad days are here and gone. They never really last. When you overcome that phase you will emerge a stronger person with purpose.

•Your hard work will be paid, maybe much later but the wait will be fruitful. Your work won’t go unnoticed forever.

•You need to notice your own work first and always try to find room for improvement.

•Take a stand. Be bold enough to carry on with a smile and not lose heart. It is easier said than done, but it has been done.

•People can only make you feel inferior if you let them. It is with hope that you sustain life and getting attention should never be the reason or the motivating factor behind your work.

•You need to keep learning, learning the ropes on how to live and in the long run, lead a life with confidence.

The winner takes it all and winning is not easy. The most important thing is learning to lose, learning to accept defeat and learning from the past. Then you will surely be a winner.