Gay dilemma

I am 19 and an emotional gay. I do not feel any sexual attraction towards girls, but am more comfortable with them than with guys. I don’t have a voice like that of a man. I have been suffering from insomnia for the last seven months as I am in constant fear of exposing my femininity. I had a crush on a guy from my college and felt like proposing to him. But I thought it was an awful thing to do and that he might be straight. So I was forced to forget him. Sometimes I feel like having a best friend who is also a gay, but don’t know what to do about it. I even gathered courage and revealed my secret to my elder sister. But she went into denial and didn’t believe me. I want to be a transsexual and lead my own life but I am full of fear. Please help me. — Lonesome gay

Dear Lonesome Guy,

You must be feeling terrible and alone, especially after realising that even your sister could not come to terms with your situation. Please contact the Blue Diamond Society. They should be able to help you. You also seem to be confused whether you are gay/homosexual or transexual. You can only find out what and who you really are when you meet people like yourself.

Among friends

I am 15 and in love with a guy whom I met on the net. He had only very recently shown me his photo, but he told me a few days later he had fallen in love with a girl who happened to be my best friend. Now I don’t have the courage to express how I feel. I’m scared of breaking my friendship. Strangely the guy has started talking to me more frankly than before. This has confused me and now I can’t stop thinking about him. My friend has asked me how she can get along with him better. And I don’t know why I’m helping her, but it seems I want her to get along with him. But I’m in love with the guy. I don’t know what’s best for them and me. Why am I helping her? — Confused friend

Dear Confused Friend,

Sounds like you are in love with the idea of being in love. However, I don’t think this guy you met over the net deserves so much attention. Net love affairs can have a strange twist, so I cannot even

predict how the affair with this guy and your friend will eventually develop. I think you are better off watching from the sidelines. No need to be sad. Remember your are only 15, there will be lots of real people, real boys in 3D who you will meet and share real friendships with.