Queen of hearts:

This cute girl moved into my neighbourhood three years ago. Even though I knew she was having an affair with another guy of the same area, I could not stop myself from falling for her. When she showed a bit of interest in me, I proposed but she refused saying that she took me as a brother. After two months she accepted my proposal but two days later she wrote saying she was joking. After a month she came back to me and said that she loved me and only me. But now I think she is losing interest in me. I have heard awful things about her but then I am not ready to believe any of those and carry on the relationship. I am confused. Does she really love me or is she just playing games with my heart? — Hopeless Bipin

Dear Hopeless,

I don’t see why you need to get trapped in what is clearly a hopeless venus fly trap situation.This girl has you wrapped around her little pinkie finger. She just has to click her fingers and you come running. One thing is certain — she soun-ds more confused than you. So if you want a relationship based on confusion and delusion, go ahead and get entrapped. If you want a more sane relationship, learning to let go may prove to be a useful exercise.

Love triangle:

It’s been more than two years that I have been chatting with a guy. In the beginning he proposed and I did not know what love was all about so I did not reply. We continued chatting and now I am very close to him and I think I have fallen for him. The sad part is that he has another girl whom he loves and she is also my pal. I feel very lonely now. I get upset when they meet and talk. What should I do? I still want to be friends with them.— Helpless girl

Dear Helpless Girl,

From what you have written it is clear that you are still good friends with this guy. It is interesting that even though you rejected his initial proposal you continued to chat with this guy for two years and develop a sound friendship. This is a feat in itself. However, in life you have to learn that you can’t have everything and that it is rare for the same opportunities to come by twice. Your friend has moved on and found someone else to love. It cannot be easy for you considering the girl is also your friend. If you want to be friends with both of them learn to confront your own demons and be brave.

Shy guy:

I joined a tuition class recently and there are only girls in my class. I don’t know them and feel very lonely and awkward amongst them. Due to this, I have not been able to concentrate much in my studies. My problem is that I don’t know how to talk with girls and I feel nervous when I face them alone. Please help me. How can I start talking and make friends with them? — Boyalone

Dear Boyalone,

You are not alone at all. Many boys and girls go through these same insecurities. Blame it on the culture, blame it on sunshine. Just remember one thing, if you are the only boy in the tuition class and you have to get ahead with your studies, you cannot afford to get distracted by a gaggle of school girls. Learn to be comfortable in their company. Remember girls are humans too. Once you respect this universal truth, striking up a conversation should not be difficult.

God mother:

I am a 19-year boy. I have one best friend and she recently told me that I am not trustworthy. I respect her a lot. She is like my mom. My mother passed away 11 years ago and I see my mom in her. I used to share everything with her but these days she has been avoiding me a lot. I have recently been diagnosed with leukae-mia. When I told her this, she made fun of me. I have not told my family yet as I don’t want the to worry them. But what is killing me is her behaviour towards me. How can I assure her to trust me? Please help me. I can’t even think of her going away from my life. — Trustworthy

Dear Trustworthy,

You have managed to confuse your friend.The reason why she finds you untrustworthy is that it is difficult for her to believe the story about your health. Are you sure you are not just craving some extra attention ? Is it possible that the father of a 19-yea-old diagnosed with “leukemia” would be ignorant about the status of their son’s health? What circumstances prompted you to have a leukemia test? If you have indeed tested positive for leukemia, share this information with your father and the rest of your family. Being a family means worrying about each other and caring for each other. Your friend will be there for you when she knows the reality of your condition.

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